A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal

©2000 · ISBN: 1-878526-69-1

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A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal

∼ for parents making difficult decisions about babies they love.

Edited by Molly A. Minnick, (A.C.S.W) and Kathleen J. Delp, (A.C.S.W) with Mary C. Ciotti, M.D.

This book is must for all professionals working in the expanding field of prenatal diagnosis and reproductive genetics and for the parents in their care. It is written by parents who have faced the news of a fetal anomaly with grief and courage. Read their words and learn of their journey through grief and healing.

Pineapple Press is pleased to announce the publication of the 4th edition of A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal. This book is distilled wisdom from parents who learned that their unborn babies had serious or lethal anomalies – parents who hope their words will speak to the hearts of other bereaved parents.

What is this book about?

It’s about the experience of parents making difficult decisions about babies they love, about taking control in a seemingly out of control situation, about hope for healing and about the experience of a subsequent pregnancy. It’s about how couples heal – together and apart, about continuing a pregnancy with known fetal anomalies, about selective fetal reduction, and the experience of D&E. It also includes touching poems, letters and memorials written by parents.

A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal is parents talking from the heart, down to earth and real but also inspiring. In short, this book contains the words to help parents through decision-making and healing at a time when they are facing one of life’s most difficult dilemmas.

“Grief is the hardest work I have ever done. I realize now that it is a journey that must be undertaken. It will not just go away. You must participate.”

— from the preface of A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal

“There is no one right way to grieve. Our decisions and choices are our own.”

— Joanie Reid, author “Life Line — A Journal for Parents Grieving a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Early Infant Death”

“I am unable to express in mere works the healing guidance and loving support I found within these pages.”

Journey with parents through grief and healing…

A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal — with over 78,000 copies in print — is the proven resource for parents who find that their unborn babies have serious or lethal anomalies. It has been given to parents in genetic clinics, perinatal centers and in hospitals for over fifteen years. Parents, in turn, have expressed their sincere appreciation for receiving this book.

“I’m healing. It’s been gradual. I can’t notice the difference from week to week, or even month to month, but I can say it’s less painful than six months ago.”

Share the healing guidance and support…

A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal is written by parents who have experienced the devastation upon learning their babies have anomalies. Some parents make the decision to continue their pregnancies; others decide to interrupt their pregnancies; all are forced to make an extremely difficult decision – unlike any other. These parents have shared their thoughts, feelings, and experiences in “A Time to Decide, a Time to Heal” so that other parents may ultimately heal.

“This book sensitively speaks to the critical needs of parents who experience the death of a baby. This is a must read not only for parents, but for caregivers who wish to enhance their own understanding.”

— Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD, Director – Center for Loss and Life Transition

Now– in the touching 4th edition…

We have expanded and updated each chapter of A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal. In addition, several new chapters have been added. These include: Continuing the Pregnancy; The Experience of D&E; Couples Healing Together – Healing Apart and Unique Experiences of Grief. The chapter on the hospital experience has been rewritten after surveying physicians and hospitals about their current practices and procedures. Also included are new poems and writings from mothers, fathers and grandparents. This book has been highly praised from professionals in the field.